I was thinking...

I was on Facebook, like every day... visiting my friends, making some posts... you know..

Then a friend of mine answered my status.

He was trying to understand what I wrote in portuguese... and tryed to give me an advise. I read his message, and aswered him. I tryed to answer him, in english... but my grammar is awful, and my vocabulary is worst....so, I start to think...

and think..

and think...

and... then I observe my self.... I'm not missing a person, I'm missing moments with this person...

you know... everything I was doing with him was good.. and it makes me feel good.

I wrote this to my friend... and he reply:

"My dear......... You are perfectly fine. You have the ability to separate issues and identify things for what they are. There is nothing inherently wrong with missing "the company" or "things" done with another, even if you have parted comp...any with that person. To miss a fun time, you remember what it is (in life) that brings joy to your world. This is good. It is good, too, to know you do not need to be with that person, if indeed you parted for an important reason.

The hard thing, and this is where I offer worldly (free) advise: Be careful that you do not create standards TOO HIGH, for things that are NOT important. And, keep your standards, for those things important. Too many (ladies, more than men, as we are simple creatures) become bitter, trying to find Mr. PERFECT, and do not see that he is right there with you. Because umimportant things become the guidlines. In other words, remember to forgive, because (you too) will need to be forgiven!

Hugs, my dear friend."

He is so right about all.

My friend Carol said me today something like this: Sometimes we need to change, to give us a chance... couse we deserve it!!!

I'm looking for my disorientation... (who read Clarice Lispector's phares some posts below, will understand what I'm talking about)

** Forgive me about the english... I'm practicing it.